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Love Says No

We love to say Yes! to our spouse. It is so good to be supportive and encouraging. It seems like if our loved one wants something, it is the best thing for them. You want to go back to college? Yes, let’s make that happen! You want to change jobs? Yes, I want you to […]

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Fight

Couples need to fight. And when I say fight, I don’t mean yelling, screaming, and name-calling. In fact, I really don’t mean any of those things. When I say fight, I mean engage. Couples need to engage about the differences in their relationship. My parents called it “having a discussion.” My siblings and I used

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Fight Less

Right away, I need to insert a caveat. Couples need to fight. There will soon be a blog specifically about that topic. In this particular section of the world wide web, however, we’re going to stay focused on couples who fight more than they actually need to. Is this you?  If so, take heart, conflict

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Conscientiousness versus… Not So Much

We are born with many personality traits. In psychologist circles, we talk about the “Big 5” personality traits that have been found in just about every study on personality. These 5 traits include openness, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Personality theorists insist that we are born with some level of these 5 traits. In general,

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